A friend of mine updated her facebook this morning about a girl who took her own life yesterday because she was bullied. It has been playing on my head and heart all day and it has aways been something that i have worried about for Elle.
To me, her hair is beyond perfect. In fact, i am so jealous of her colour that i am getting a similar colour in my hair soon. It changes colour all the time and is actually multi toned! She has red, blonde and white streaks all through her hair and people would pay alot of money to have her curls. But, red heads often get judged before people get to know them. There is such a thing around people with redheads and how because they are ginger, how they must be ugly. Especially in the playground. Children can be cruel and i remember being younger and a little girl with ginger hair was bullied so much and no one wanted to be her friend. I wish i was braver back then to tell her to ignore the bullies and tell her she was pretty. My husband was also badly bullied at school because of his hair colour!
It worries me to the point where i just want to cry that Elle will get bullied. To me, she is so beautiful and she has such a loving heart and the thought ofanyone being mean to her, especially about her hair colour, breaks my heart. Last year, i was walking through the shopping centre with her. She was so excited and was running towards the disney shop when a group of teenagers walked past and one went "eurgh, look at that! its ginger!" and the rest of the group just laughed! I was so shocked and i felt so helpless. I want to be able to protect her from any hurt but how am i supposed to protect her from bullies! Alot of people have said to me that she is so tough and such a character that she wont get bullied but i just worry and worry. I want her to know how beautiful she is and have the confidence to stand up for herself if she does get picked on but i dont want to turn HER into a bully by making her think she is better than anyone else.
Elle gets stopped alot in the street by elder ladies telling her how gorgeous her hair is and it makes me so proud but times are so much different now.
I am so sorry to be so negative in this post. It is something that will always be on my heart i think. I just wish this was something i could have control over. I just hope and pray that people will see her for who she is and not just see a ginger girl they can bully!